Positive People – Providing the support to help solve some of life’s puzzles
I’ve been working on this email for about a day now. I’m still trying to find the right words to say what I want to say. I really want to get it right. I want other people to experience what I have experienced. It’s a lot for me to process! It helped me in ways I’m still only just realising.
A year ago I was in the Travelodge with my son and I was just so happy to see him again. I didn’t even know I was going to run away from his dad at the time. I know this because the pictures of us came up in my Google time line. I was still in denial about the abuse. It hadn’t reached the physical stages yet. My ex-partner had got drunk at his party and threw me out because of some infidelity that never actually happened. I’d been there a few days by myself already, mostly just crying and looking for rooms to rent. He’d already asked me to go back but it wasn’t the first time it had happened. We had actually made a verbal agreement to start separating 6 months before. But like a lot of things I said that he didn’t want to hear, the conversation just seemed to magically vanish over time until even I had doubts whether it had actually ever took place or not.
My life had always been like a puzzle I couldn’t solve. I had a lot of pieces. Some of them were really good pieces, but everything was all jumbled up. I think the way in which Positive People helps is by helping you see the pretty picture on the outside of the box for the first time, and then (literally) helping you get a table and chair to do it on!
The program itself is very structured. Everything has to be done or reviewed within a certain time frame. It teaches you about goal setting which is very important. It puts you in a position where you find yourself building your own future, and because everything is done on a timeframe you know when to expect things to happen and before you know it, you start making plans.
Also it looks at all aspects of your life and not just looking for work. I used to think the idea of having a personal trainer was too luxurious for me. It has been so long since exercise was even an option for me. I’d forgotten how well it made me feel. I don’t feel the need to turn to self-harming/dysfunctional coping mechanisms any more.
I learned a lot of life skills and I’ve seen myself putting them into practice. That way you gain enormous confidence in yourself through your own experiences in a way that is really tangible. I feel more positive about the future now than I ever have in my whole life.
Being a teacher was something of a fantasy for me. I first thought about it 20 years ago. I’d never even told anyone about it before. Its still sinking in but I’m looking forward to starting on Tuesday.
Positive People is funded by The National Lottery Community Fund and the European Social Fund. It is part of the UK wide Building Better Opportunities programme. Active Plus are partners in this project which is led by Seetec PLUSS.